As far as Zhang Jianan knew, Xiang Weiding's childhood was very unfortunate. After taking over the child, Zhang Jian'an always hoped that the child could completely escape from the unhappiness of the past. Zhang Jian'an always hoped that he could give the child a brand new, a relatively better life that was completely different from the child's previous life. .
How would you describe Zhang Jianan's feeling?
Responsibility for life?
No matter what, as long as it rises to the level of life, it will become very serious and heavy, and it needs to be treated with prudence. With this responsibility, and assuming this responsibility, you have to work hard to do better.
If this kind of thing happens to someone else, Zhang Jianan will try his best to understand it. If he really can’t understand it, he won’t understand it. Anyway, it has nothing to do with his own life, but it has something to do with Xiang Weiding and himself, so Zhang Jianan needs to think about it. More, with more considerations.
Well... anyone who has ever been a parent knows it! Depending on the age and experience of the child, parents are not always able to trust the child's choice, and always want to choose on behalf of the child. Of course, all of this is based on the mentality of completely expecting the child to be better, and worrying that the child will not choose the right one, it is inevitable to worry about the child.
What if it is a biological child! Generally, children still listen to their parents, because they themselves don’t trust their own choices very much. They are used to being worried about by their parents and arranged by their parents since they were young. Some children have their own ideas. , cursing, procrastinating, and wanting their children to be obedient, well, of course there are also rebellious children who don’t listen to their parents at all. For such children who are procrastinating and regressing, if you try your best to pull them back, parents It may also be disappointment to despair, and despair finally let go.
Xiang Weiding was adopted by Zhang Jianan. Although Zhang Jianan was only 25 years old and Xiang Weiding was 11 years old at that time, the difference is not too big, but Zhang Jianan, who is in his 30s, is fully qualified to be Xiang Weiding’s father. This is also true for Xiang Weiding, no one will refuse the warmth of the family.
Not a biological child. It will be more cautious and cautious. There are often reports on the Internet that the attitudes of stepfathers and stepmothers towards children have two extremes. Either they are abuse and neglect, or they will go to the other extreme. Okay, very good, the cautious one is good. , or put in a lot of energy and look forward to it.
Let’s not talk about abuse, indifference means not caring, being cautious means being polite, alienated, and polite. Generally, they are afraid of being gossiped and don’t want to be called vicious stepfathers and stepmothers. There are actually quite a few good people with a lot of effort. There are biological children and stepsons around, but they often show more concern for the stepsons.
Because there is a subtle feeling that the biological child is born by oneself anyway, and it is fine to treat it in any way. But be sure to treat your stepson well and feel like your own child! No matter how well I treat him, what kind of achievements my own child has achieved, I should all be right. Who calls him my child? But stepson is different. If you treat your stepson very well, your stepson will have a great sense of accomplishment because he has achieved good results, which is ten times or a hundred times more than his own children.
It is also different in the eyes of others, just like parents who work hard to support their own children to study and get admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University. After entering Tsinghua University and Peking University, the eyes of neighbors and relatives were full of admiration, everyone would say, so so and so is such a good person, so good to his stepson, look, not my own child can be so good, that child is really blessed.
Among them, there are some differences.
Zhang Jianan is facing Weiding! She doesn't go to any extreme, and loves Xiang Weiding like her own child, and the pain lasts for ten years, but... thinking about it, there is a big difference.
If it is a biological child, I found that the child had such an incredible idea back then, uh... I think if it is a biological child. It is impossible to have this idea again, but let's assume! If the biological child has such thoughts, Zhang Jian'an can immediately teach the child mercilessly, or don't teach the child, but just sternly explain clearly, and do everything possible to correct the child, anyway, it is biological, no matter how bad it is, The blood relationship is always there.
However, because Xiang Weiding is not Zhang Jianan's biological child, the relationship between the two of them... Although Zhang Jianan often thinks that they are close relatives, and he really thinks so, when facing the test, Zhang Jianan hesitates, he dare not go too far He taught Xiang Weiding a severe lesson, and he couldn't even explain clearly to Xiang Weiding very seriously immediately. He was afraid that Xiang Weiding would not be able to stand it, and he was worried about all the reactions Xiang Weiding might have.
Xiang Weiding often said that he wanted to be with Zhang Jian'an for the rest of his life, but in Zhang Jian'an's heart he always thought that they were family members and they should be together for the rest of their lives. Maybe not living together, but this kind of relationship is a lifetime thing, and they will not be separated, and Xiang Weiding's being together obviously has other meanings, at least it requires being together in terms of distance.
Two years ago, Zhang Jian'an couldn't make it clear to Xiang Weiding immediately. First, he felt that Xiang Weiding was still young, and he was a little lucky. He hoped that the child would correct himself slowly. Second, Xiang Weiding was still young, and he was afraid that the child would not be able to accept it weakly His own merciless blow. Emotional loss of control affects learning, bad personality changes, three... After all, it is not the biological child, worrying about talking too much, the child did not get satisfactory results, maybe there is excessive behavior, or... Avoid yourself, don’t want to talk to yourself stay together.
Zhang Jianan has experienced the psychology of teenagers. If he confessed to someone and was rejected, he might feel ashamed to talk to that person and avoid everything until he completely let go or has someone else around him. And they have this kind of relationship, Zhang Jian'an thought about it, if he was replaced by Xiang Weiding, who expressed such taboo feelings, and was rejected again, he would probably be disappointed and sad, and wanted to escape!
He told Mr. Wei Ding that the two would be together for a lifetime, but Zhang Jian'an didn't say anything, but he always believed that they should be together for a lifetime, because they are family members, relatives, even if they don't live together, or even in the same city, but because they are family members, as long as this layer If the relationship is not broken, it is regarded as being together for a lifetime. In fact... Zhang Jianan refuses to be separated more than Xiang Weiding.
I couldn't make it clear before, and I was always worried about giving in to Xiang Weiding, but now I have to say that the child is old after all, and he should cut off everything. Even if Xiang Weiding resents him, Zhang Jianan must So did it.
Duty of life!
hehe.heavy responsibility.
Because it is not a biological child, I have concerns about possible separation, and I am afraid that the relationship will break down, so it has been delayed until now.
Also because he is not his own child, Zhang Jianan feels that he should do everything possible to make the child's life better. Even if Xiang Weiding keeps saying that he has his own way of happiness, even... the child has persisted for two years, which makes Zhang Jianan feel a little bit better. I understand the child's feelings, but... After all, it can't be done. If it is his own child, maybe Zhang Jianan will let him find any happiness. I live a better life than the average person, so I don't want my child to go the wrong way, not at all.
Ugh
A long sigh in the dark.
After Zhang Jian'an left for four days, Xiang Weiding couldn't get up to do anything, and he was a little dazed. He was still thinking about Zhang Jian'an's words, but after much deliberation, he couldn't think of a result. He couldn't follow Zhang Jian'an's wishes. , Zhang Jianan also said that he didn't like it, this is a knot, Xiang Weiding only hopes that this knot will be as usual, let it stay where it is! Ask no more.
I call Zhang Jianan every day, at least two times. Xiang Weiding carefully avoids touching this topic, but Zhang Jianan never lets him go. Maybe his tone is no longer aggressive, but he never relaxes and asks him every day , to remind Xiang Weiding to think about life and the future rationally and maturely, and not to make some mistakes knowingly.
Xiang Weiding didn't know what to say, he could only keep silent.
Maybe he will feel uneasy in his heart, but... at the same time, he also has something to rely on in his heart. This dependence is just Zhang Jianan's soft heart, but Zhang Jianan is used to it.
Xiang Weiding thought, after so many years, even if his feelings were exposed in the past two years, Zhang Jianan was still good to him, so if you can't say it, then don't say it! Anyway, Xiang Weiding didn't believe that Zhang Jianan would completely and resolutely separate from him because of this, because all he wanted was to be together as before, and he didn't expect anything else? Why not?
Thinking about it this way, Xiang Weiding relaxed a lot and maintained the status quo. An... shouldn't be overwhelmed, shouldn't have to let himself go, shouldn't ask himself to do something to others, right?
Moreover, even if An asked her to find someone else, she could just prevaricate that she didn't have a suitable one, right?
Left for four days, bored in the rented room with nothing to do for four days, and returned to Bingqing. When he got home, Zhang Jianan really missed him so much, it’s better to be at home!
"You're home!"
The door of the house was not closed, so Zhang Jianan only had to open it and walk in. Xiang Weiding, who had been waiting in the living room for him to come home, saw him and immediately smiled happily.
"Well, I'm back." Zhang Jianan smiled at his son. Although he was on the phone, when he saw someone, he felt a soft warmth in his heart. He raised his hand and habitually wanted to touch Weiding. head or face.
Looking forward to Weiding for four days, seeing Zhang Jianan also wanted to get close, and feeling Zhang Jianan's possible movements, he immediately lowered his head slightly in cooperation, but... Zhang Jianan suddenly stopped when he raised his hand halfway, he thought, Maybe it shouldn't be this close anymore.
It was just a moment, and Xiang Weiding didn't pay much attention to it, because when he lowered his head slightly, he had already grabbed Zhang Jian'an's hand with his hand, and put Zhang Jian'an's hand on his cheek, rubbing it like when he was a child. , put it down, but did not let go, holding it in my hand, all the uneasiness, uneasiness, and sadness in the past few days are all gone, and now only contentment is left.
"I bought the vegetables, it's still early, I'll cook later, you've been in the car for so long, sit and rest first." Xiang Weiding took Zhang Jianan's hand and waved it, then pushed Zhang Jianan Go sit down on the couch.
(Dear keinamour, you put a lot of pressure on me by sending rewards, huh... I've been lazy these days, and I'm also scared, so I don't dare to read the messages, so I'll go back one by one now)